I have always believed that the "go to" form of
discipline is a spanking, correctly administered.
- It is biblical
- It is quickly executed and then it is over
- It is effective, and
- It provides opportunity to complete the
discipline with unbroken fellowship with the child
However it is not the only format
of discipline we used.
1. Removal of toys.
If our kids were told to pick their
toys up and they left them out, the toy was removed. Sometimes permanently
2. Anita used a quiet voice very
effectively to get the attention of our children.
3. It was a given that if mom had
to discipline while dad was away, dad would also discipline when he arrived
home. It was a sign of mutual support.
4. We never liked "time
outs" because they let the children brew in anger.
The duration of the time out is a
time of broken fellowship. We never wanted broken fellowship to last. However
we would have our kids got on their rooms to "solve the problems of the
world." The difference is in the when. We always did this before they were
in trouble and needed discipline but when we could see it was coming.
5. An ounce of
prevention...
When we were about to enter
situations where there was then likelihood of them getting in trouble we would
rehearse to them our expectations and have them repeat them to us. We also recognized
they were children and would try to remove them from those situations before
they had been as good as they could be as long as they could be.
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